Therapy is for Everybody!

Hey y’all,

Ms. Rona apparently has at least one silver lining: Bae and I have never been happier. Literally. After two years of living apart, being back together in America - but especially under quarantine - has done wonders for our relationship.

We actually fought this morning . . . but it lasted literally 2 minutes and we were laughing and giggling and holding each other right after that.

What were fighting about, you ask?

Picture it: Sicily - 1932. It was breakfast time and there were no more clean plates to put my breakfast on, so I was going to eat off of a cutting board. My babe took a plate out of the dishwasher and cleaned it as I was putting my eggs and bacon on the cutting board. I was like “no please don’t” and he was like “please don’t eat like an animal.”

The end.

I know this sounds petty . . . because it is. But once upon a time, we might’ve been mad for hours. Today, we are letting the petty shit go. It is because, I think, in this moment, we know that we only have each other. That we have to treat each other with kindness. That we have to give each other the benefit of the doubt. And we have to do our very best to make the other person happ(ier).

And it is exactly in this moment of perfected coupledom that I would like to shout from the proverbial rooftop that we (me and Bae + the rest of the world) all need therapy.

Some of us more than others . . .

Now I know of a few of y’all getting those divorce papers ready or are otherwise sharpening kitchen knives. I beseech you, for a moment, to lay down your weapon of choice and consider online therapy. There are lots of affordable services such as Talkspace.com . . . I don’t mean to push you towards this particular service, but I am trying to wink, wink, nudge, nudge you towards pursuing strategies to take care of your mental health during this once-in-a-lifetime crisis.

This is especially true for those who find themselves alone. We need human touch. We humans need connection to other humans and a Zoom circuit party is simply not going to fill that hole #giggity

In all seriousness, I personally know many of you who are feeling particularly down because you lack this very simple human need. You are not alone and help does exist for those who seek it. Even if you dont’ get therapy, make sure to reach out to friends and family. Be honest about how you’re feeling and tell people, to the extent that you can, what you need.

Now, the Rona got us all messed up, but we also need therapy outside of this crisis too. Most folks avoid it the way I’ve avoided the gym for years. You see how that shit turned out for me? That’s how your mental health looks.

Get. It. Together.

I’m always here if you need me - and a counselor is only a phone call away. Please take advantage of these types of services because we are in this crisis for the long haul, I think.

Now, if you need an immediate laugh, feel free to slide on over to my brand new podcast, “the family we choose” available on all streaming platforms. We aren’t therapists, but we are good for a laugh. And maybe that will do for now.

Peace and blessings,

The trendy one . . .